Will my grief ever go away?
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July 17th, 2020
The short answer is no, it will never go away. But you're not always going to feel so raw as you do in the beginning. You're not always going to be knocked down by your grief or feel like you've been swallowed by a tsunami washing over you and you can't get out of bed. You're not going to always feel like you have no idea how to live fully again. Over time, your grief is going to soften, but it will have flare ups. I had a client once who said that he was experiencing sparks of grief and I think that's sort of how it feels over the long term. It just sort of comes up suddenly, but it doesn't come as often and it doesn't last as long and it's not as raw. But the fact is, is that the person that you love isn't here anymore. So you're always going to miss him or her. And that's grief. It's always going to be a part of your life over time, but it doesn't have to be the headline event.